Posts Tagged ‘write it down make it happen’
Nevermind the Naysayers
April 13, 2011
Wise words on a Starbucks cup: “The world burst at the seams with people ready to tell you you’re not good enough. On occasion, some may be correct. But do not do their work for them. Seek any job; ask anyone out; pursue any goal. Don’t take it personally when they say “no” — they may not be smart enough to say “yes.” – Keith Olbermann
Without a doubt, there will be people that:
… talk behind your back.
… one-up your latest accomplishment.
… have a comment for everything.
… don’t want you to succeed.
Why? Because people:
… are jerks.
… are jealous.
… don’t want you to have more than them.
… don’t want to be left behind.
Unfortunately, that’s just life. But, you have to be strong, determined and really push to get whatever you want. Maybe you want to lose weight, change careers or move out of state. Whatever it is, don’t let the naysayers talk you out of it. Of course, people will offer their opinion — and it’s great to take it, especially if they are experienced in whatever you’re trying to achieve … but, as with anything in life, you might just have to learn by doing.
Here are my tips:
1. Set a goal.
2. Research.
3. Plan.
4. Complete steps to meet your goal.
5. Regroup.
6. Start over if necessary.
And:
1. Stay positive.
2. Be consistent.
3. Give it your best effort.
4. Don’t give up too easy.
5. Forget the naysayers.
6. Go with your gut.
7. Celebrate your successes.
8. Take note of who’s on your team.
That’s all. Just go for it. If you want it, you can have it.
Photo by Wonderlane.
Being Healthy Can Make You RICH
March 22, 2011
I had dinner with a close girl friend last week. We tell each other EVERYTHING. We talk about fitness, healthy eating, relationships, work stress, holistic practices, etc. We like to explore the unconventional stuff.
She told me about her friend Courtney* that has relationship issues and is always disappointed, even when the situation is not “make-or-break.” For example, Courtney will get really bent out-of-shape and take it personally if her boyfriend, Mark* doesn’t call at the exact time he said he would. Courtney’s therapist suggested that she create a “checkbook” to record and monitor Mark’s positive and negative behavior. So, when Mark calls on time, she writes down +$50. When he takes her out to a nice dinner, +$75. When Mark is late, -$25. Courtney determines the worth/dollar amount for everything. And, the list is a way for her to determine what’s meaningful and focus on the positive things Mark does. Instead of flipping out, she’s programming herself to “check herself before she wrecks herself.”
I’m not endorsing or putting down this concept. I do feel bad for Courtney and her negative associations, but I’m happy that she’s working it out by getting help and using techniques that work. My thought though, is how to apply this idea to exercise and healthy living. Why not keep a checkbook of the things you do each day to get to your health and fitness goals? Assign the amount you’ve “earned” based on what you think you deserve.
My list would look like this:
Drank a full glass of water to start the day = $10
Packed my lunch(es) = $15
Avoided eating the coconut patties at work = + $15
Taught kickboxing at 30% exertion (injury) = + $20
Jogged for three miles and sprinted the last quarter mile = + $35
Ate consistently, four small meals, four hours apart = $30
Got to sleep before 10:30 pm = $40
With time, hopefully, your “bank” account will be exactly where you want it to be, you’ve “saved up” the “amount” you want and you have reprogrammed yoursef to have positive, happy associations with being healthy. Now, feel free to send me a real check in the mail! 
Please share your list! I’d love to see what you think things are worth.
Photo by jridgewayphotography.
*Names changed!
Back and Better Than Ever
November 22, 2010
Wow, it’s been a looooong time. Too long. Sorry.
Well, I have good news. I’m back and better than ever. Why/How? I’ve had so many life-changing experiences since the last time I blogged. There were so many that I was really distracted and had to find myself again.
I lost my job. It was a good thing, actually. I was free from the stress, toxic environment and immoral leadership that I didn’t agree with. It was an emotional roller coaster. When I got let go, I questioned myself, my abilities, the next step. I went through stages of letting go and acceptance, but I also needed to regain faith. I stopped doing things I loved — I stopped writing.
I got married. After our 10-month engagement, I had the best day of my life. Things were exactly how I wanted it. I was surrounded by family and friends. It was amazing. However, it was really stressful … but all worth it.
My cousin passed away. Three weeks after she read at our wedding … after we were all together as a family … she passed away. I never felt so devastated before. Never experienced grief, pain, forgiveness like that before. She was such a beautiful 22-year-old.
Life now
I’m back and I’m happy and feeling great. I’m so thankful for the people I have in my life. My husband, my parents, my brother, my cousins, my friends …
My goal now with my blog is to be even more personal. Honestly, I started it because I needed to force myself to be positive. My old job was really draining me emotionally, and I tried to smile and make the most of it. But, I’m human. I have bad days. I question myself, and I have doubts. I used to write all happy things, lessons and inspiration. But now, I’m going to be even more real. I’m going to talk about the pain of losing a cousin, about letting go of the past, forgiving people, things that scare me. I truly believe that the more open you are with yourself and with others, the more rich your life will be. People love you. They will love you at your best and worst times.
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