Things to Think About
You Are Not Alone
July 11, 2011
It may seem like other people know what they’re doing, and they’re breezing through life with all the answers. It may seem like everyone else has it better — no struggles, no anxieties, heartaches or disappointments.
Maybe your life is not where you thought it would be at this age. Maybe everyone else has the perfect spouse, big house, successful career, money, phenomenal body and great looks … and you’re just destined to be miserable.
Not really …
Not everyone expresses their pain. Think about it. Would you go spewing your disappointments and anxieties to just anyone?
Everyone is suffering in their own way. Everyone is struggling.
The more we feel alone … the more we feel like people don’t get us … the worse life can look.
Change your mindset. Reach out. Find people that can relate to you. Open your heart to those that love you. Express yourself in different ways. Try each and every day to find happiness. Come up a new plan.
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.
Photo by Wildcat Dunny.
Nevermind the Naysayers
April 13, 2011
Wise words on a Starbucks cup: “The world burst at the seams with people ready to tell you you’re not good enough. On occasion, some may be correct. But do not do their work for them. Seek any job; ask anyone out; pursue any goal. Don’t take it personally when they say “no” — they may not be smart enough to say “yes.” – Keith Olbermann
Without a doubt, there will be people that:
… talk behind your back.
… one-up your latest accomplishment.
… have a comment for everything.
… don’t want you to succeed.
Why? Because people:
… are jerks.
… are jealous.
… don’t want you to have more than them.
… don’t want to be left behind.
Unfortunately, that’s just life. But, you have to be strong, determined and really push to get whatever you want. Maybe you want to lose weight, change careers or move out of state. Whatever it is, don’t let the naysayers talk you out of it. Of course, people will offer their opinion — and it’s great to take it, especially if they are experienced in whatever you’re trying to achieve … but, as with anything in life, you might just have to learn by doing.
Here are my tips:
1. Set a goal.
2. Research.
3. Plan.
4. Complete steps to meet your goal.
5. Regroup.
6. Start over if necessary.
And:
1. Stay positive.
2. Be consistent.
3. Give it your best effort.
4. Don’t give up too easy.
5. Forget the naysayers.
6. Go with your gut.
7. Celebrate your successes.
8. Take note of who’s on your team.
That’s all. Just go for it. If you want it, you can have it.
Photo by Wonderlane.
Don’t Be a D-List Friend
April 1, 2011
With my bff and maid-of-honor, Danielle!
I’ve been called “Super Friend.” I will talk to anyone, anywhere. I will find something in common with you and love to keep in touch. You tell me you like working out? We’re doing a race together. You tell me you love to cook? I’m giving you my favorite recipes. Your husband’s a Giants fan? Double date!
Maybe I’m a hopeless romantic — or friend-mantic — when it comes to friends. Maybe I just want to have clones of my best and closest friends. I don’t know. I just really like to connect to people and have crazy, laughing-so-hard-I’m-crying fun. I feel like you can learn so much and also offer a lot in return. But, some friendships are just not worth it.
In all these trial-and-error friendships — some have lasted and some have fizzled out. I think that’s normal. My hubs says that not everyone is going to be your best friend. My closest friends tell me that there are different levels of friendship. I agree with both. And, in all this, I’ve figured out my friendship “style” and “requirements.” Maybe that means I’m high maintenance. Tell me what you think …
To me, a close friend:
• Responds to your phone calls, texts, emails, fb posts, whatever. Maybe not right away — but to the important ones, yes. And if it’s been a few days, a “sorry, things have been crazy” message is cool too.
Real life example: I once expressed to a “friend” how devastated I was with losing my cousin and said I really wanted to get together and be with friends to laugh and have fun. No response. The day that we got together, I texted her to see if she was coming, and she had a lame excuse. Didn’t even mention my email or bother to rsvp to the evite!
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